see url Once he pulls away to the length of his rubber band, he'll spring back. This is all based on a hormonal rhythm. When a man is feeling confident and knows what he wants, his testosterone builds up. The same thing happens when he begins chasing you, wanting you and dating you.
As he grows more confident with you, his testosterone increases. As he grows closer to you, another hormone gets produced called oxytocin.
Oxytocin is the bonding hormone. Think of that 30 seconds after an orgasm when he is closest to you. Unfortunately oxytocin naturally lowers testosterone. This drop in testosterone can cause a man to lose confidence, doubt everything in his life and say things like "I don't know what I want right now, but I don't want this. He will get close and then he'll start to pull away until he feels good about himself and then he will get close again.
If he pulls away and she pursues him, then he never gets the space he needs to miss her.
After pulling away for some time, a man will often begin to miss her and desire her again. In healthy relationships, men do not pull away out of anger or frustration about their relationship. If your partner is pulling away out of anger, or is simply avoiding you, there is likely something else going on.
Also, rubber banding does not happen when a couple is newly in a relationship. This cycle evolves over time. If he is pulling away early on in the relationship, there are probably other issues affecting his interest that may or may not be related to you.
Unfortunately, this cycle can be quite upsetting to a woman. She wonders, "Is it me? Did I do something wrong? Does he still love me?
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He may feel pressured because his partner doesn't trust him, or he may even feel that he is incapable of making her happy. At other times, women convince themselves that it is "wrong" to contact their partner, that they must refrain from even talking -- and that whoever talks first loses. Of course, while they are determined not to fold, they are also waiting by the phone, checking their voice mail, checking their e-mail, or checking that lump in bed lying beside them for signs of life.
In your situation, I think his fears of intimacy caused him to leave for so long. This may be more than the rubber band theory. Both of you could be right for each other. But if you want to get him back, look at things from his perspective.
What ways did you unknowingly turn him off? Then write him a letter or an email. The beauty of the rubber-band effect is that you can, and should, use it at every stage of your relationship to drive up his desire.
Continue reading on the next page. All of a sudden, he seems more interested in getting a drink than in you.
Instead of continuing to chat, give him time to regroup. Then, let him see you chatting up your girls or the hot guy in the hallway. All you need to do is give the dude some space, so he can go after you…and your number.
The basic idea: Imagine that there's a giant rubber band around you and your guy. Anytime he Stage 2: Dating For A Couple Of Months. The Elastic Band Theory Of Relationships, are they really like elastic bands? Should they be? The argument here is that they may be, but they should not be.
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