https://hukusyuu-mobile.com/wp-content/code/998-how-to.php I'd also only go out with someone who was educated at least to university level. And as you so rightly pointed out, any girl willing to jump into bed so easily is not the sort of girl that I'd want to hang out with unless purely for fun. Maybe this is my own personal taste, but I think I'm not the only one. Too many western guys get taken in too easily.
Sorry buddy but I'd give her a miss. Just my opinion, but good luck anyway. To be honest I'm thinking of just going down the fun route with this one assuming she's cool with that, but from what I can gather she wants a relationship so don't want to lead her down the garden path. Honestly, when you said earlier that she has had several flings with other guys, it really means that those guys just see her as a girl for fun, or that she is not faithful and goes out with other guys.
But whatever, even if you go out with her just for fun, don't go catching something nasty that you can't get rid of, and as colinoscapee said, watch out for spiked drinks. There are lots of girls out there who may not be prostitutes but also not good girls. Won't be nice waking up with your phone, money and credit cards gone. So be careful and have fun. To have fun ur worthy of a prostitute instead of. You met a beautiful woman, via a dating site, you had a good time, she was friendly, honest, English speaking, that as dated expats, none worked out and that now wants a long term relationship.
Boy, that's a problem I hope to have everytime I meet a female. Let's hope that you just didn't drop the ball, you may just have punted it. If so I would suggest that although it might be considered inappropriate in the West, your best prospects would be at work. I was married almost my entire time in Vietnam, but when I taught in public middle school, I certainly noticed that several local English teachers in particular were both attractive and friendly. You are much more likely to find a nice girl that way. After all, WORK is a 4-letter word Welcome to Vietnam, BT Actually not all Vietnamese [or any nationality] have identical brains.
Young city women will be more modern than their traditional mothers. Read some abundance mindset and pua material for confidence. I think I'm just being overly paranoid to be honest. Will give this girl the benefit of the doubt. I'm just scared she might be one of those psycho chicks that falsely accuse guys with rape after sleeping with them or something else sinister.
I'll continue to err on the side of safety I think you will too. Keep your hand on your wallet. Think with your big head not the little one. Don't jump in at the deep end. Keep an open mind, not an open wallet. Read the advice given by other members here and learn from it. And as Bazza states, err on the side of safety.
Be careful and do not use a plastic bag like this couple: How long do you stay here in Vietnam to know well the vietnam women? It is better if you should invest your time in learning Vietnamese and the culture about the country in which you work there before you date someone to find a suitable woman with you!
Good luck to you! Hello, I'm a half Viet here. From my perspective of being a Viet woman, a woman like that just wants a real gentlemen who will take care of her. What I mean is a Viet women with the "men pay for everything" personality like to be treated like a princess or queen by their lovers.
If you treat her well be a total gentlemen she will return your love. It's really normal here. And one thing you should never do is mention about money while you're still dating - it completely turns a Viet woman off! I live here in Vietnam. HCM is full of girls that will rob you blind. There are some great girls there also. But if you meet a girl and she tells you to pay for everything then that's trouble.
A good girl want ask that. She knows you will do it because your on a date. Also a good girl will not ask you to take her to your hotel. English speaking men are at the top of the food chain,lol. HI there, I'm Vietnamese and I would like to give my own view about your story. I don't know if this girl is working girl or anything but in my position, I won't let guy pay for my taxi.
For food we don't share but take turn to pay its my own opinion About jumping to bed easily, I hope you guys don't judge woman that they are easy girl or any stereotype.
Vietnamese girls right now get effected a lot from the American movie jump into bed when u guys like each other , Probably, she has a feeling with you, that why she was giving you hints about that. Moreover, Vietnamese girls also have a thought that when a couple has sex, it means they have sth together, it's kind of weird but thats how it works. Anyway, how is the relationship right now? I'm curious about that Yeah BT you got lots of people helping you out here. Three months later, how did that turn out? I don't think that it's so often even in America that people tend to have sex on their first date.
Everything takes time, and it depends but sex on first date is really very unusual. Sorry I am Vietnamese woman and I seriously advice you not to date any of us. Go out of that "jungle" if you still want to be alive happily Close the case and everyone have peace. I don't get on there often obviously, and have currently moved back to Australia temporarily coming back later this year. Anyway to update, we caught up again later in the week.
She paid her own way, we ended up sleeping together a few times. Then to be honest I kind of lost interest as I couldn't really feel that connection I want in a long term partner. I sense she felt the same way. So we went our seperate ways , no trouble and no harm done. Thanks and apologies again for the very late update.
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Member since 12 April How can we love when we sure about cant live with eachother in the rest of our life? If you have money, you can looking for some chickengirls. If you have feeling, you want to love, you want to look for a good girl, you ll have to ready for a stability future. I had a suggetion from a 25 years old boy Im 27 years old , lets get a dating, speed dating , but I ll come back to USA in this August.
Love in 3 months? Its not life, its not love. Charlie, Forget everything you've ever learned in the US about starting relationships with women. It's just not the same here. NashCat has made some good comments and I agree with most of them. I also agree that there appear to be some good girls here on Expat. That's about as close as you're going to get as far as situations simialar to American dating. Now, after you're in a relationship, I will say that women are women, whether they're American, Vietnamese, Chinese, whatever - all have basically the same overall expectations for happiness and you have to respect that.
It's my experience though, that the Asian women are easier to live with. Apologies to all you western women out there I think it depends on where you meet the girls. If you meet them at the bars, I am not sure they are the ideal types of Vietnamese girls. You can find the good ones through the coffee shops, bookstores, churches or Pagoda However, it is just my own opinion. I think you have not got the chance to meet the right girl yet.
Be patient and if you really want to find a good one, then you, sooner or later, will meet her, as the best is yet to come. When you meet the right person, your heart will know that she is the one and I am sure it will not matter whether she is Vietnamese or not. It took me over three years to meet my current girlfriend, I had gone out with some really nice ladies, but they wanted marriage too quickly.
My current girlfriend doesnt care if we get married or not, but if it happens she is ok with it. As stated above, like anywhere in the world you generally dont meet the right girl in a bar. Be prepared to have a girl tell you she loves you after one day and also wants to get married within a week of knowing you. What you think about Vietnamese is a little bit subjective. I agree that there are some stories that some Vietnamese girls dated with foreign guys and then went away with the money from their pocket. However, it is not always the case. I think maybe you have not meet the good girls, so you think all Vietnamese girls just consider the foreigners as their ATM machine.
Besides, why don't you think that some foreign guys dated with Vietnamese girls and then ran away leaving them alone with their pregnancy? I am not trying to make the conservation become controversial, and I know you have your own opinion. However, I just feel what you observed and the way you think about Vietnamese girls are not really exact.
In Vietnam or most of SEA dating is viewed as a step towards marriage. I know this is a very generalized statement but for the most part it is true. From my meager understanding of the culture here the girls and young women seem to think they are in some kind or race against time to find a husband and start a family.
I have a niece who is 25 and she is worried about finding a husband. She wanted me to set her up with a friend of mine but when she found out he was only going to be in Vietnam 6 months she didn't want anything to do with him, she said she didn't want to waste her time. You also have the problem of the parents pressuring the girls to get married. I have met so many ladies that were pressured into marriage and therefore failed very quickly.
Viet Nam has one of the highest rates of divorce in Asia, maybe the parents pushing the girls into marriage has something to do with this. I have found that markets and cafes are 2 of the best places to meet women. The market because the woman is in a place she doesn't consider to be in a social situation and will be acting more her true self. And if she is there with her mom or grandmother you can see how she interacts with them. Its very easy to start a conversation because the women will be very surprised your there anyway especially if you are alone at a "street" market and not at super market and they will be very eager to help you with your purchases, all you have to do is ask.
This will also give you an indication of their level of English skill. Cafes are nice also because it is a relaxed atmosphere and it is very easy to start a conversation. Questions about the menu or about the area of town your in are great and many times can end with you being invited to join the table with them.
It may also have something to do with the high rate of alcoholism in Vietnam. I have heard many stories from some of my wife's friends about their husbands coming home drunk from work 5 to 6 nights a week and a lot of these are not friendly drunks.
True Don, you also have the gambling factor, I have some friends who lost everything due to the husbands gambling. Questions about the menu or about the area of town your in are great and many times can end with you being invited to join the table with them] I do agree with what you think. Yes, we can see the natural manner and behavior of Vietnamese girls so that we can know how real she is, and market is the good place. However, it does not matter where the girls come from. I also think the mutual thinking and similarities is the strong bond for a relationship no matter where they are from.
One of our neighbors when we lived over by Jesus lost his house on a drunken football bet during one of the championship matches a few years back. The mafia guys had no problem booting him and his family out a few days later. We proud of that! I would like to be able to meet someone and get to know them first before getting into something serious.
But sometime there are points of confusion and thing said get lost in translation here. There is no word or understanding of the word "dating" it either all or nothing. That was my first experience with a girls here in Vietnam. I really don't like those websites it seem like it is only a meat market.
And you really don't get to know the other person. Ladies give me some advice. What's another word for dating here or term that I can use to say I want to date you exclusively for now and see if the relationship can turn into something more serious. Lately it's been Girls I go out with for a week or so and they tell me they love me. How can that be??? We have been going out for a couple of weeks.
Is it me or love come here too easily. The word love is used very loosely, just look around you. The word is everywhere, on shirts,bikes,shops they are in love with the word love. You have only been here a short time, you cant expect miracles in a few months, it took me 3.
I went out with bucket loads of women here, some just for 2 hours some for a few days, its all part of the process. Jinxedta, How about "trial date" like trial marriage? You can say that to a girl and see how she reacts. They are close to each other physically and spiritually. Meanwhile, in stage 1, they mostly give spiritual sharing with a bit romance.
This is different with the "Western culture" this term here is collectively referred to all countries excluding Asian and African ones. So, if you suggest a "trial date" to a Viet girl and applies for the stage 1, I positively think it works. But for the stage 2, it depends About love, I even believe love comes at the first sight.
The point here is when one of the two persons says it out to the other and people, for many reasons, take long time to admit that. Back to the case that girl said love you after one week, for me, no surprise. And I believe that you are old enough to know if it was real or fake. You should step down from your empty pride which you got from the States and then open your eyes slowly. Sure, you will find out a girl in your dream. From my experience, Vietnamese woman are very conservative than what we in the west are use to. I have met some married ones interested in that 1 night fling but I advise against it.
Having been married to an unfaithful wife the few minutes of joy is not worth the pain that can be caused to that family. I have learned that being intimate here is like a promise to marry. There are plenty of western woman passing through, if sex is the need see them or a professional girl. I am not an advocate of prostitution but please give those girls respect and treat them well.
I am sure they would rather have a husband supporting them. I didn't know this would be such hot topic here By all means I'm not into the 1 night stands. I just saying that its not hard to find someone her in VN but finding that someone that is looking to get to know one another before getting so serious is the clincher. You can't really find out someone's quirks within a few weeks.
I see why there are so much divorce or separations here. I have had good luck wtih okcupid. They are not the same here as good 'ole American boys. I found a new speed dating thing while searching around the net give me your thoughts vnspeeddating. In Viet Nam, parent usually force girl to marry from 25 - Over 30, it is not good for giving a birth and people around you will have rumour such as "Poor her!!!